Identity crises are quite common among many people. It is mostly noticed in teens and in individuals from early 20’s. These are the people who are still trying to figure out their careers, their passion, their dreams. It is the lot who is wanting to be accepted in the things they do. With competition looming over in every field, it becomes difficult to convince ourselves that we can achieve what we wish to achieve. That we can be good, better and best at it. Because standing in is just as important as standing out.
To be honest, I began my writing with the help of my pastor. I used to – and still do – write my thoughts about the gospel, the revelations I experience and my faith. But just as I got accepted by my fellow church members, I realized that I should broaden my skills. So, I began my research and I came across a magnanimous count of writers. They are everywhere and that led me down. I consulted a few friends and when they told me that anybody can become a writer, it shook my choice of becoming a writer even more. After all, I am the same person who would leave essays halfway during exams because I got bored. I am the same person who hated reading and would fall asleep every time a book was laid open. Just as I began reading, I fell – furiously – in love with it. And the constant reading led me to write. Write my thoughts about whatever I read whether it’s a book, somebody’s blog post or some Facebook troll.
During my research, I signed up for many sites which gave me tips to become a better writer. There are three things which every established writer spoke:
- You need to continue doing whatever you are willing to do, till it becomes a habit, till it becomes a routine (like brushing and bathing). You want to become a writer; write daily. You want to be a swimmer; swim daily. You want to be a singer; sing daily. If you take a break, it will be hard to get back. Procrastination is an evil witch and will not let you lose till you boldly cast it out.
- You need to be bold about whatever you are doing. Bold enough that criticism wouldn’t bother you and you continue doing it. Because not everyone will love you, but not everyone will hate you either. Take that step. Write that book. Jump in that pool. Sing that song! You must be your own motivation and inspiration.
- The third thing I learnt is not everybody is the same. I read that there are stories written in every genre and about every topic but it’s definitely not written from every perspective. People still haven’t read your side of the story. I believe this can be applied in every field. The techniques and strategies you know about swimming are different. There are swimmers (some of my friends) who cannot float on water the way my boyfriend does (who is not at all a pro). I know I can sing only English songs better where as there are people who cannot.
Thus, I began my journey of writing, with a lot of support from my own self. It is very important to have faith in yourself and not to lose yourself in the interim. Mistakes are part of life and they make us better. Failures are part too and they teach us to move forward. What we do need to remember is that, we need to make things to fit in them. If we try to fit into something we aren’t made for, then that thing is bound to break and we will too (along with it). If there is something you are doing and its making you think, “What am I even doing here?” then you are only fooling yourself by continuing the work you don’t like.
So, I urge you, stop doing things that aren’t giving your mind a peace. That aren’t making you happy at the end of the day. Get out of that comfort zone and follow your dreams. Yes, it is easier said than done. But don’t forget, we are sailing the same boat my friend. It is very hard to take that leap of faith but when you do, you will be glad that you did it.
“Don’t lose who you are in the blur of the stars!
Seeing is deceiving, dreaming is believing,
It’s okay not to be okay.
Sometimes it’s hard to follow your heart.
Tears don’t mean you’re losing, everybody’s bruising,
Just be true to who you are!” – Jessie J.
P.S. That thing about my boyfriend floating, I don’t know if it’s a good thing. But I have heard people compliment him for the way he floats. LOL. Take care.
P.P.S. You can listen to this song on YouTube.